The Power to Change
How to Gain the Ability to Change your Mind
On May 16th, 2016 I left New York after 15 years in the big apple, and transplanted to Los Angeles. Both of these cities are full of hustle and bustle, but things are a little slower and a lot more spread out in LA. Moving from one coast to the other; no big deal, but for me it was a choice that I was sitting on for 5 years. The thoughts surrounding this choice were incredibly nerve racking becausethere was risk involved- my career, relationship, and connections were all at stake. I was leaving my community and a collection of very dear friends with no guarantees. Fortunately, things fell into place nicely, and granted me the courage to take the plunge.
The emotions I experienced during this process were all fear based: loss of control, loneliness, financial insecurity, meeting new people, was my relationship foundation strong enough, DRIVING, etc., etc. These feelings kept me paralyzed and unable to make the changes I wanted to improve my quality of life. My gut was telling me GO!, but my brain was saying, stay where it’s COMFORTABLE. I knew I just needed to put one foot in front of the other and get my ass out of NYC and head to LA LA Land before the summer, and so I did it. I’ve been empowered.
Keeping a clear headspace was the most important part of this process. Staying present for each day, cherishing the time I had with friends, and staying active in my plan. Like any move, I had to work out some logistics, and when things didn’t go exactly how I would have liked, I just worked through it instead of trying to force an outcome of my liking.
My heart strings we being pulled the last weeks I was in NYC, and I started second guessing my choice. Suddenly the beauty of the city revealed itself, but I knew I was just experiencing the bittersweetness of good byes. These thoughts were coupled with reminders of all the reasons I wanted to leave, and my decision was quickly clarified.
I followed a 3 month plan of action. This was my order of execution:
- Decided I want a change.
- Pick a day I want the change to happen.
- Look to other people’s experience as a guideline to follow.
- Make preparations
- Accept that things will not be the same once the change is made
- Stay humble. Remind myself that things might work out differently than I think.
- Stay open. New beginnings come with new challenges.
- Let go. Out with the old, in with the new.
- Once the change has taken place, don’t regret the past, just enjoy the journey.
My last night in NYC was beautiful, I had a small agenda during the day. sang karaoke with a beautiful group of friends, ate 2 slices of pizza, and cried. It was perfect. Making this leap has been incredibly empowering. I am so grateful to have developed the self confidence to change what is not working for me in my life-because I am worth it!
What happened once I arrived to Los Angeles will be the second part to this article. For my newest recipe from CA, visit my recipes page on this site http://www.chaseelder.org/recipes/